In the Disney version of Tarzan we have an interesting predicament where the main character’s real father is killed and Tarzan is raised by a foster father who not even human. This makes things difficult as it causes a great deal of mistrust between his adoptive father and son, though his adoptive mother is much more nurturing and kind.
You might have strong differences between you and your children. They might sometimes wonder how they turned out so differently. But that is nw excuse for treating them with mistrust or unkindness. The mistrust that Tarzan felt starkly affected his actions, causing him to do rash things that put everyone in danger.