The golden rule is perhaps one of the most crucial parts of the marriage. You can gauge everything that you do in your marriage by whether you would like to have it done back to you.
If you don’t want your spouse to raise her voice at you, don’t raise your own voice. If you want patience and forgiveness, you should give that out as well. If you want her to be thoughtful and kind, do not look for ways to change her behavior, but look inward and see how you can become more thoughtful and kind yourself.
In a good marriage, each spouse reflects the other and both reflections are beautiful.