Day 319: Pam Brown on Fatherhood

Dad’s don’t need to be tall and broad shouldered and clever…
Love makes them so.

-Pam Brown



Day 318: Top Ten Tips for New Dads from Daniel Tomasulo, PHD, Tip 9

9. Be responsive.

A reach, a look, a cry, anything your little one does to make a connection with you should be honored.  Remember — they are just learning how to be in the world.  Let them know you appreciate their effort.  Studies have shown that parents who are responsive to their infant’s cries and needs help them develop better communication and language skills.  It makes sense.  If you know you are being responded to, you look to make that process more efficient.

Top Ten Tips for New Dads from Daniel Tomasulo, PHD

Day 317: Making Freezer Meals

Another way that you can help others is by bringing them meals. Now it is great to bring a hot meal to someone who is in trouble, maybe sick or who has a new baby. You can also prepare what are called freezer meals. These are meals that come in a bag or other sealable container that can be kept in the freezer for a long time and warmed up over the course of time, providing several meals.

This is a simple way to provide someone in need with meals for a longer period of time and it is very convenient for you because you can often prepare several of these freezer meals all in one sitting, especially if you have helping hands to pitch in to make and deliver the meal.

As a tip, be sure to write your name on any dishes that you loan to person in order to give them a meal. Often a strip of tape with your name written across it works pretty well.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Day 316: Fatherhood Poem: Thank You, Dad

Thank You, Dad

Thank you for the laughter,
For the good times that we share,
Thanks for always listening,
For trying to be fair.

Thank you for your comfort,
When things are going bad,
Thank you for the shoulder,
To cry on when I’m sad.

This poem’s a reminder that
All my life through,
I’ll be thanking heaven
For a special dad like you.


Day 314: Trust is Greater Than Love

“Trust is greater than love.”
― David O. McKay

I feel that this is true, especially in marriage. Of course, you need both, but I think trust is something that is built up after you love someone, bit by bit. You have to have some trust in order to give your heart to someone, but it is only in the day to day life, showing that you are trustworthy that you and your spouse learn to truly trust each other.

Day 313: Profile of a Father: Saving Mr. Banks

Story of “Saving Mr. Banks” is based on the real life of the author of Mary Poppins, who went by the name P.L. Travers. Her father was a kind and whimsical man with his children, but also suffered under the plague of alcoholism, which caused him great trouble in being able to provide for his family, affecting both his health and his conduct in the workplace.

The sad truth is that we each have the ability to be a good father or a bad father within us. The one that manifests itself might vary from day to day or from hour to hour, but it is up to us which of our natures we allow to have dominance. Our struggle is only to figure how we can allow the better man who is within us to show his face as often as possible.

Day 313: Pinocchio and Geppetto

The story of the Pinocchio starts with a man, Geppetto, who wants to become a father so badly but he makes a boy out of wood to be his son and by magic, the boy is given life. Pinocchio has to learn how to be a good boy, to choose right from wrong and, above all, to tell the truth. It is only when he has learned these things through great trial, that he could become a real boy and Geppetto could have what he always wanted.

In a way, the fact that any of us have children is a miracle. We don’t fashion them out of wood, but we do create them and then mold them in our image. Our own children go to the same struggles of learning to be truthful and virtuous through great trial. As children of her heavenly father, we don’t truly become real people until we become more like him. And when we do, it’s a miracle.

Day 311: Top Ten Tips for New Dads from Daniel Tomasulo, PHD, Tip 8

8. Keep your promises.

As your child grows and as you develop as a family, remember that dads have to be absolutely certain to do one thing:  keep their promises.  If you promise your spouse you are going to be home at 6:30 p.m., make that the priority in your life that day.  As your child grows, these promises to him or her become the backbone of your relationship.  Deliver on what you promise and the ease and security of the relationship will evolve.  Renege on these consistently and an insecure bonding, something you definitely do not want, can happen.  I encourage parents I work with to only make commitments and promises they can keep.  I’d rather them keep one promise than make three and only keep two.

Top Ten Tips for New Dads from Daniel Tomasulo, PHD