Day 255: Top Ten Tips for New Dads from Daniel Tomasulo, PHD, Tip 1

1. Time and tolerance.

“The most important thing you can do is simply spend time with your newborn.  Serious research about fatherhood is only a scant 30 years old, and what we know is that the more time fathers spend with their infants the better. Researchers in the early years of father-infant bonding couldn’t find fathers spending enough time with their infants to study them.  In other words, dads weren’t spending an adequate amount of time with their baby to even start measuring the impact. What we know now is that the time you can just be with your infant is valuable.

Along with time, you will need to have some tolerance for you and your new creation to get to know one another.  This is your first time being a father and your son or daughter’s first time being a human being.  Be kind and gentle with yourselves.  Allow for some learning, experimentation and mutual tolerance. Give yourself time to learn and grow into the role.”

Things may seem overwhelming at first, but it is something you will grow into. Don’t think that you will be used to your new routine in a day. Don’t feel bad if this adjustment causes you stress. That doesn’t mean that you are a bad father.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s