Being a great father is like shaving. No matter how good you shaved today, you have to do it again tomorrow. ~Reed Markham
This highlights the very reason why I don’t like shaving. There are so many things in life that you work on and see progress over time. Shaving is not one of them. Thankfully, fatherhood is. But the main point of the quote is still valid. It is not enough to be a good father one day and then neglect your duties the next. You must be consistent in being a good father. Your spouse and your children will have problems every day that will need your assistance and support.
I know when I’m tired or sick, shaving never sounds like a good idea. It is much easier to let it slide than when I am feeling well. In the same way there are many days where you don’t feel up to your hundred percent. On these days, it may be extra hard to be a good father. That is why is it a good idea to decide in advance what you think a good father looks like. Write down a few tenants by which you will live and make a decision and commitment to live by them no matter what the circumstances.
These don’t have to be fancy. They can be as simple as “a good father speaks kindly to his children. Or “a good father puts the needs of his family before himself”. Whatever you are, if you have made up your mind beforehand, it will not be as difficult when faced with the decision.
And if you had a bad day, just like when you miss a day of shaving, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just get the razor and start again.