Though it may sound like a cliché, you have to keep dating your spouse. Especially when the children start coming, you will spend more and more time wearing the “mom” and “dad” hats and less time wearing the “husband” and “wife” hats.
Like anything that is worth it, there are obstacles. Just to name a few:
- I don’t know what to do. The great thing about date night is that the emphasis can be on how much time you spend together and not as much you spend on the date. It doesn’t matter so much what you do, just that you enjoy it and you do it together. Find ways to do your shared hobbies together, or do something as simple as going on a walk without the kids.
- I don’t want to leave the kids. Trust me, spending some time away from the kids actually works to their advantage in the long run. It is easier to appreciate them after you’ve been away from them for a while. Make sure that you find a reliable babysitter, and get to know them first if you don’t already.
- I don’t have the money for it. Date nights do not need to be expensive, though an occasional splurge is fun. Many dates don’t need to cost money at all. Watch a movie together at home with treats, play a board game together, share a dinner you made at home without the kids. Let it be something where you can talk like husband and wife instead of mom and dad.
Set a night every week, maybe Friday, maybe not, and stick to it. Your whole family will thank you for it.
Question: What night could be your date night if your don’t have one already? What are some things you and your spouse like to do together?