“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
― C. JoyBell C.
Raising children is a bit like raising plants. They require just the right amount of care and attention, but have to do the actual growing themselves. Their environment must be fostered, their needs seen to, but nothing about their growth can be forced. You can’t yell at a plant to grow faster or try to pull it up out of the ground to be taller without damaging the plant. Only patience and constant nourishment will do this job.
In fact, if you give a plant too much water and sunlight, it can harm or even kill the plant. Similarly, in order to provide the best for our children, we should given them a good home like fertile soil, and provide for their physical and emotional needs, like sunlight and water. Then, we must let our children grow for themselves. Smothering your children without letting them make and learn from their own choices can actually harm their growth.
Question: What can I do to allow my children to make and learn from their own decisions? Are there any areas in which I am smothering my children?