For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
As a parting word, I share this, one of the most powerful passages of scripture I know. Nothing will separate us from the love of our Heavenly Father. Nothing should separate our children from our love.
“My father worked for the same firm for twelve years. They fired him. They replaced him with a tiny gadget – this big – that does everything my father does, only it does it much better. The depressing thing is, my mother ran out and bought one.”
– Woody Allen
Don’t believe it, fathers. You are indispensable.
When birthdays, Christmas, or other gift giving opportunities come up, don’t be hard to shop for. It often helps to make your spouse a specific list of suggestions of things that you might want.
One thing that I do throughout the year is when I see something I like, I go to Amazon.com and add it to a Wish List. Many similar retail sites have a feature like this where you can save things for later and even share them with another person through email. When I do this when I’m thinking about it, it makes it a little easier to do than to sit down all at once and try to think about what I want.
You might also consider requesting gifts that are experiences rather than just things. For example, getting your spouse a hotel stay paying for a babysitter so that the two of you can go overnight without the kids and a gift card for a nice dinner. You might get tickets to go see something in the theater, or to a sporting event that you want both want to go to. Sometimes memories are the best gifts.
In the Disney version of Tarzan we have an interesting predicament where the main character’s real father is killed and Tarzan is raised by a foster father who not even human. This makes things difficult as it causes a great deal of mistrust between his adoptive father and son, though his adoptive mother is much more nurturing and kind.
You might have strong differences between you and your children. They might sometimes wonder how they turned out so differently. But that is nw excuse for treating them with mistrust or unkindness. The mistrust that Tarzan felt starkly affected his actions, causing him to do rash things that put everyone in danger.
“A new father quickly learns that his child invariably comes to the bathroom at precisely the times when he’s in there, as if he needed company.” – Bill Cosby
“The nature of impending fatherhood is that you are doing something that you’re unqualified to do, and then you become qualified while doing it.” – John Green
Take heart, new fathers! You do not need to know everything before you become start. With every new day, and each new child, you qualify yourself a little more. So, don’t sweat it! Fatherhood is truly something you learn by doing.
As the end of the school year looms, if you have traditional school, many children start looking forward to having little to do. If you don’t make a plan for what you will do over the summer, oftentimes nothing gets done, and this makes it even harder to keep up good habits and eventually to get used to going back to school when it rolls around again.
Sit down with your family at the beginning of summer and plan some fun things that you will do together. Perhaps there some sports you want to play as a family, or a day or two every week you want to go to the pool. Maybe there is a trip that you all want to take his family and that people can save up for by doing extra chores or by working for others. Summer is an excellent time to work on talents such as learning an instrument where more progress can be made when there are no distractions with school.
The plan or schedule will work better when it’s written down and posted in a place that everyone can see. That’s not to say you can have some lazy summer days, but it would also be a shame to waste all of that perfectly good free time.
All of us do the will of God. The question is not whether we do God’s will or not, but whether we do God’s will as instruments, as Satan and Judas did, or as sons, as Peter and John did. In the end Satan may be nothing more than a hammer in the hand of God.
C.S. Lewis, paraphrased
I figure that if the children are alive when I get home, I’ve done my job.
Two of the worst words you can use in an argument are “never” and “always”, because they speak about absolutes. It is very rare that someone actually never or always does something. Often and seldom are much better substitutes, but also make sure that is what you really mean. It can be hurtful to accuse someone of never doing something you want them to, or always doing something that bothers them. Instead of speaking in absolutes, find ways to focus on the problem itself, and solutions, compromises, and ways to work things out. Never and always also promote you raising your voices, injecting them with anger. That is never something that is going to help a discussion, but will likely turn it into an argument.